Unlearning and learning all over again...

You don’t learn first quarter of your life anything except for the usual studies and regular life ethics or maybe you are too engrossed in it that you don’t have the time to learn anything else. Another reason also because till that time you think those two are sufficient to survive in the next three quarters .But the following years makes sure they prove you wrong and you learn everything you missed in former quarter. J I know u must be wondering what I am upto when I say this.
First quarter of your life ends up in winning the rat race in studies and ending up in a big corporate where you can make your dreams come true. Then starts the next quarter and you run trying to make big in your organization which starts with hard work but ends up with everything but not hard work.JThis is the first blow when you start changing your ethics. Or in other words you adjust to circumstances and people around you. In the process of going up the ladder of success you also learn the actual ethics required to survive in today’s big world of success where everything except honesty is required. Good for you. Not that you unlearn your basic fundas of life which you might have learnt from your family but you learn to mingle them with today’s funda that is work but don’t overwork and plus if you work make sure everybody sees you working otherwise there is no point of working. And many more such things. The degree upto which you manipulate your old fundas with new one tells something about your goodness. If all that matters to you is little work and all showoff you are not all that a good person at heart but if it is a mix of both still ok. Now c’mon everybody does that .Atleast you are better than the former. Nyways this is the way you end your next 2-3 years. By the time it is time to touch 30 you realize now you have the learnt the tradeoffs of your industry but you are lagging in your personal life. U don’t have a constant boyfriend/girlfriend you can immediately get married to or atleast think of getting married so another fight starts .That of hunting for a prospective guy/girl. Anyhow by this time you already have learnt that love is just an illusion so now the decision has to be a practical one. But when has god taken your opinion before deciding anything for you. So here you go –get married to whosoever is destined for you. J
There starts another phase of adjusting youself with another person, the spouse  n everything new around you. This field again has its own way of working .Certain set of rules which differ from the ones you followed till now. Here comes another change in the set of ideologies you knew till date. And this time its all the more important to understand these .After all you change an organization at your convenience but this is something which is supposed to be permanent. So starts another tussle of getting adjusted in the new environment. So next few years gets spent in adjusting to new ways of life and striking a balance between everything and everybody or sometimes just living on the edge and still living.J
Not that I want to make a point in this blog but just how we unlearn whatever we learn in our first quarter of life and how trivial and useless the learnings of first quarter seems when we enter the next quarter and subsequent quarters of life when actually it should be the base for whatever follows in the next quarters of life. So does that mean don’t make your child learn the ageold concepts of honesty, hardwork and all that bakwaas.J Make him learn the new ways of life .